First thing is her need to feed the dog everything shes eating to be point where its expected! My boyfriend actually feels sorry for his dog if she cant get away w this crap. He sees Mesa as his child, I see Mesa as an animal. Its fantasy to think otherwise. Educate yourself about their shedding: You should have a sufficient awareness regarding whats normal and whats abnormal. I spent the first two months cleaning her hair out of everything. Absolutely not. I really thought a girlfriend is suppose to be number one. WHAT! They will let the human go because they can control the dog. It wont get better when you marry. I have also asked him to politely not allow the dog on the couch for the same reason no one wants to be sitting on dog fur when they come over to visit or to smell like a hound. The smaller ones can stay fresher longer but if you need to wash them its quick and easy. So I am going to therapy for grief as I am having a tough time handling that. His response to this you can love my dog now. I strongly recommend reading the following article. He wants her on the couch all the time even though she is always peeing on herself and dirty. WHITE WIRY AWFUL HAIR. I ended up in the ER with puncture wounds bleeding all over. He smells SOOO bad!!!! My son is almost 4, he can hardly enjoy the dog because the dog is probably 10 years old and hasnt had a lot of interaction with children. Now we are in love and he wants me to dump dogs at a shelter and move away with him. And thats the rub. When A Dog Arrives. She gets the carpets all muddy and has torn up the backyard of our home and the landlord is mad. Undoubtedly there will be some sensible advice here, but to be honest, so many of you just sound completely bonkers! She stained the carpets so bad that Im embarrassed to have company over. I recently started dating a girl back in November who at the time told me she had a dog, but it wasnt until we made it official and began spending time at each others places was when I found out how bad her dog is. He tells me off for that apparently, it is not in his nature to bite and he has been trained since a puppy for anyone to touch him during mealtime. I never thought a pet could cause a breakup but this thing is about to. My partner loves dogs as do I, so neither of us mind their presence. Especially my husband, he is notorious for leaving clothes thrown on floor, leaving tools out over the place, NO NO NO no more PETS! Its feral. I tried calling no answer, so text her why is your dog here? Im willing to work something out with the dog/chewing situation but weve tried everything we can think of. I give up. My bfs dog (hes never had pets & bought the dog for his kids when he & his ex wife divorced bc he thought it would make the divorce easier for the kids.I know, terrible idea! Train: You have to spend more time training the dog not to bark. I went into this marriage never having heard the term dog codependence. Dog fanatics include both men and women and those who are affected, who put up with the filth, the cost, and the behavior, are also gender-mixed. My boyfriend hates my dog and wont let him at his apartment, but insists I stay there. Its not even the dogs fault, this is a situation that my boyfriend has created over the years, long before I was in the picture. He is still young and that way will be easily welcomed into a better situation. I may have said some misunderstood and vulgar things but frustration can do a lot of things to the mind. this puppy is scared and looks at me for comfort. It IS selfish to let the dog continue carrying out said behavior(s) if youre unwilling to take the time to get to the root of the problem. My girlfriend has a Yorkie, which I came into the relationship with her having. I questioned myself as a woman. And honestly, I do feel bad for these animals because I dont hold their behavior against them. What more is there for a woman to give a man? It has chewed a few things it shouldnt and I dont always feel enthusiatic about walks but its generally okay (only 8 months). Ive tried to love it, but the dog irritates me so much No thanks! Forgive me when I say this but as soon as I finally was able to graba hold of him I immediately ran inside the apartment, and started to hit him on his bum bum and yell at him! My husband was mean to her I found out later as he apologized. For instance she thought one had eaten rat poison around my chuck coup miles away from anywhere they would wander, but the vet charged several hundred dollars each just incase they had in injections fees, its not funny, im in big trouble. The dogs would be all over the furniture with no space for us to sit. This is the exact way I feel. We wanted to provide links to some resources that may be relevant to you here. He always has to cuddle, so we cant really cuddly when I am at her condo because he gets jealous. You know its a lot when there are animal hair tumbleweeds throughout your home. IT has to sleep in our room or else IT will bark and complain. Finally one of my plates was chipped and I ask him to stop and he started using paper plates. I would rather see the dog go to another home. How I talk to the cat and greet him(mind you, my husband went through a depression from losing his job and Id come home to his scowl looking face and Mango would run to me for his greeting-Im sorry? No, we are building our own home and I feel that at this point, we have the decision to take the dogs or not and finding them a good new home where they have space to run around instead of sitting inside all day with no people around. As for the man I am currently with, I would never dream of asking him to give up his dog. When the dog is not around, (because his dad will take the dog to camp with him) everything is great, but when the dog comes back its terrible. Mans worst friend: Average dog causes 2,000 family arguments in its lifetime. Not loved his dog, he was in love with his dog. I just wish he would be nice and not threaten to throw them out the door when Im not here. He is getting better, but generally, this is the order: dogs, me, kids. My first dog was older when they met and therefore very sedate, the second dog was not into people, other dogs, she was very reserved, so having a puppy around freaks him out. I honestly dont think that single people should get dogs because it poses much massive problems when it comes to trying to date or have relationships. I want to be able to invite friends and family over to our house, and I just want a clean house and quality time with my husband together! Whenevr I try to address the issue, she gets pissed off and doesnt want to talk about it. Weve tried other toys, but he destroys and eats them. I cant tolerate this dog anymore but I know it will break my husbands heart. And he hated even finding hair outside And my boyfriend doesnt like spending time at my place so were always at his and my dog isnt aloud. They need to sleep by themselves and be trained. Maybe your husband or children have allergies to dogs. Not to mention, dont compare them to children like a boy and a girl analogy. Cant wear anything dark or I have fur on it. So I need help! uh yeah right. When she brushes up against you there is hair on your clothes. Usually in the winter she stays in. We got a dog thinking it would help us keep active, particularly as I was giving up my job to move with my husband who wanted a career change and to home school our kid who couldnt cope in public school. About a year ago, we got our home renovated and our bathroom upstairs was done beautifully, problem is, we cant really use it because that is his home. As you all are probably aware theses types of dogs shed badly, he also smells, and he constantly in the way (when I am trying to get in my car with my toddler and infant.) These people dont change and will turn against you for their dog. ive been forced to sleep in the spare room a lot of nights because she moves about constantly and snores and keeps me up the whole night. I enjoy cuddling with him. Its up to the owner to control it. He wakes us up several times a night. I enjoy cuddling her. He had me promise that I would train a new one as well as I did my last. Im a huge dog lover. Ive been in a relationship with a dog nut and you get so frustrated because they just dont get it and never will. I dont want to end something that is so good because of an animal. A house that reeks of dog & destroyed furniture instead of a family and a lovely home. In Peru, they smack them with a stick and then eat them. Wow, it is so comforting to know that I am not alone after reading everyones posts. This thing is hyper and destructive, and my husband refuses to make it ever behave. The dogs have never been vaccinated, dont get flea treatments or anti worm treatments and are taking up the entire couch and other human furniture and everything is covered in hair. How were we, the dog victims, supposed to know that our dog-obsessed partner would tell us to be quiet when our family doctor calls so that doggo can bark outside, instead of going out there and make the dog be quiet so that we can hear what our doctor is saying on the phone? Make sure consistent brushing and regular bathing. We are also thinking about a baby, but I dont want my children to grow up in a house full with poop and pee and dog hairs. Not a fair fight to be sure but if they have those avoidance issues, then you know that this could be a possibility/ /, I think it can also be a huge red flag for control issues. And she is so manipulative the dog just looks at me as if to say you cant do shit to me. Could her dogs be spreading bacteria or viruses to my wife? .i dont think you should let him make that choice. He clearly doesnt want to compromise which is what relationships are all about and being his parents are dog nuts, hes lived that personality trait his whole life and has been taught by them to be that way. Dont let them play without your supervision. Hello, again! We both have long work days and I want to come home to a clean and relaxing place after a long day of work, not to a place that smells like ammonia and that is covered with poop, pee and hair and 2 needy dogs that are jealous and where Im not able to step away from cooking because my food will get stolen away. To say I should disregard so many years of love and affection because I didnt do my due diligence to makes sure she didnt sleep with her dog seems ridiculous. He would fight me on even the simplest things, like attempting to train his dog not to jump all over people when they come in the house. It might even be something that helps you decide if you want to take the . But as the dog began to live with us, I began to feel pushed aside. His pee smells horrible and I recently learned that the smell of wolf urine is so strong that people buy it off the internet to ward off raccoons and possums. ! For god sakes! I cant complain about her because everyone that sees her loves her. I have a dog as well, and like you, I hate having fur everywhere. I really dont want one of the dogs being so much hassle. Im so happy I found this forum and to know that Im not alone! As soon as he is here its bitches drama. !! My last cat was a Pixie Bob, 8 years old when he died from a Pitbull getting loose and using him as a toy. Im literally devastated my dream, as silly as it may seem to some, has just died. I just had a long conversation yesterday with my boyfriend of more than ten years about my new dog. I can be impatient and I know this but even when I am doing my best to accommodate the Boston, he ultimately makes me want to climb up a wall. Like ever, even be on the bed and they didnt spend hard hours in school for nothing. Im sorry and mad for you, that you had to go through that. As with kitties, which Google it eventually a jr may kill the household cats (its in their breeding!!) Anyways, we have had him for 2 weeks, and my Husband and I have done nothing but FIGHT. Giving priority to the dog over the husband. This is getting out of control & is affecting our intamacy & having a healty happy relationship. When Fido dies in 10 years, what have they left? It has been 22 years and I strongly dislike having a dog in the house. My husband lets them sleep in the bed. Suppose the dog bites your child got drew pretty much a considerable amount of blood and the child is afraid of canines, now the husband/boyfriend is correct beyond any doubt. B All this with the power of love. That just sounds down right cold hearted. We have often talked about moving to the country; I would say how much Id love to get a dog and train it, go on walks with it, etc. I was tired of it jumping all over me when I got home from work and scratching my clothes, playing rough in the house, pulling so hard on walks, stealing food off the table, begging, sleeping in the bed, etc. His dogs are so spoiled, I feel like they come first. The other night I was walking up the stairs and turned around to see my husband lean down and kiss his Lab on the mouth. My SO tried to downgrade this saying oh, he wont really bite or i dont think its a big deal we got into a huge fight over that one. Given that one of the dogs has bitten another dog before? Create an allergy-free area in your home. Now it stinks and has nasty hair all over it. I am not at all angry with him, and am grateful that he let me go. (Sigh) Were trying to find solutions in the meantime. Hes 8 yrs old (blue) and the other one is 7 (Bobbi) aka pig swine and has ADHD. Theres no excuse for peeing in the floor. It sounds as though you see relationships as being a tit-for-tat type of deal, and if thats all youve experienced in your life then I am sorry for you. A dog should be a part of a family, and it is unfair for the dog to be unwanted. Hes even been around my parents dogs, including the two big ones before they both died, fussing and playing with the current dogs (three Bichon Frises) so I thought he was happy with dogs and fine around them. Wishing you the best! Choosing a pet over a partner is more common than you think. I was a woman, just remarried, deeply hurt by my husband whom treated his female Labrador with more value, more affection, more it seemed, everything than he did his new bride. Many people just dont like that. I refuse to allow some brat of an animal ruin things that I have worked hard and paid for. She would just have to get more bulldogs as she seemed to adore that sickly breed (no such thing as a healthy bulldog) and have a revolving door of bulldogs and loneliness unless she finds someone as obsessed about bulldogs as she is and then they can both have their revolving door of them! I can deal with minimal amounts of (expected) hair but when shedding requires vacuuming several times every single day, its completely out of control. I didnt realize you responded so quick. So I was unaware of the relationship. I absolutely do. For the love of God, DO NOT MOVE IN WITH THIS WOMAN!!! If youre the one who brought the pet into the relationship, be prepared to do a little extra work. But I must note: that if marriages win or lose, based on a point system, this is the first time my beautiful husband has ever lost any. Im out of ideas. He said that I will always come before the dog and that he will try to make this work. All I want and preach to other people is compromise and Im still somewhere trying to find that. Hes a shnoodle. This dog is seriously ruining my life. That was a week ago and Im so pleased and relaxed the dog is finally gone but devastated that now Im doing the pregnancy alone, so can totally sympathise with you Hun, sending hugs xxx. Id say if he leaves: good riddance!! But in reality.. NO. I found her a better home. Over the years Ive taken in three rescues that i got as puppies. She doesnt bark to let us know she needs to go outside like our other dog. My bofriend wanted me to move in. I cant take it anymore. And I dont at all understand the idea of not liking a particular dog. He constantly complains that it is in the way. 7. Im 51 years old and we have been together for nearly 30 of those, i still sexually find her atractive and dont want to go! Since he never had kids, he says that his dog is the kid he never had. Unfortunately, I have split up with my partner of 5 years over the dogs. Gosh That just tells us how your character is. When he said he wanted you he should of accepted the dog too! And I love animals!!! Ive yet to see a site that discusses the possibility that dog fanatics people who worship their pets as baby humans, rather than those who enjoy their dogs as pets may have issues, and that those issues are health neither for pets, their owners, or their real-world relationships. i even know of instances when couples had a kid that they were raised that the dog is their older brother or sister !! The dog is bored. I think in Mistys case all she can fairly expect is for her partner to groom his dog more so that the fur is as little a discomfort or annoyance as possible. I have tried to have the people in the house only let her in when she quiets but the four other people in the house respond differently giving inconsistent messages. Any chance of me getting attached to his dog flew out the window when he nipped at my son. You might ask your boyfriend to go with you to a shelter, just to look at the cute dogs, or to at least pet a pup if you can't get one. I met my boyfriend several months ago, and we only just recently started dating. She literally reduces the home value, all so she can run around and beg for food. I finally got her to agree to keep them out of our bedroom. Lots of daily time and not a penny spared. (chihuahuas) those dogs are little demons that got sent to earth. My dog, for being aggressive. So be prepared for big power struggles when it actually comes time to you wanting something to change. When I joined this forum, I realized that Im not alone and that there is actually a need for support groups over this issue. And most of them are not willing to put in the effort it takes to train, walk, and mentally stimulate them. Currently I am attempting to see if my family would be willing to take them in. I have two daughters, 13 & 11. One of them is very dominant and a bully to the other one, most of the time, which can be very frustrating. for 4 years. Both of you need to get a hold of yourselves and purchase of beds for the good of the dogs and your relationship. I wish the best for you from one dog lover to another. Although 13 years and a whole lot of assets later, hes promising he will strip me of every dime like hes done in the past till I crawled back like a dog. The only problem is he is also a huge shedder which wasnt a problem before I got married because my Husky had a lovely home outside the house, until after I got married and my husband who is 50x times the animal lover than I am decided that its too cold in California for my husky to live outside he should move inside, it was hard for me to accept the work that was heading in front of me with the my darling husky moving inside and the heap of hair that will be coming into the house. So heres my story. They think that were overreacting because we dont like fur on our clothes. He talks about it all the time. The dog is constantly allowed to sleep in the bed with us, which now that I have moved in, Im sleeping in another room my room. My husband knows better than to bring home another dog. Her dog could go next door and like you said, be fed a steak, and stay over there forgetting who she is. It shows empathy. Eventually i was allowed in the bed, but the dogs keep jumping on and off from the bed and they shed hair EVERYWHERE. While I would choose the dog over the guy, I dont want that to happen. Its difficult for me to understand why anyone would stay in this type of environment. Doesnt see our kids. Period. Neither of us like dog hair on our clothes, so hes not allowed on our couch or in our bed. Take care. It was fine until the dog got older and bigger. STOP being so self involved and worrying about your own feelings. What bothers me is that she jumps up on you all the time, she follows him around 24/7, and she whines and snores consistently. Tell him that you agree with his decision and ask for another chance. The end. You can only imagine what the level of shedding can get to during hot summer months. Well, its been a few weeks now and his ass hasnt calmed down. Im slowly retraining my boyfriend and his dog. People are way too into saying put the pet above the human relationship and thats a bunch of B.S. And almost NO pet owners take the time to harness that energy or train their dog accordingly. Its ok, to talk about THOSE little ugly things. Someone who does not like animals, they are not going to come around to loving them overnight, just because they like you. Now it's almost a year later and I get up hours earlier than I have to to take the dog on a walk and do some training. She thinks after the past 2 years I should be fine. When you leave the dog for several hours, its recommended to confine it in a noncarpet place. 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