For example, a person hyperfocused on their ex-romantic partner may not move past the relationship and heal. You Have Social Anxiety Disorder. All dead quickly then I panic and try and scrape back whatever wasted money I can. And then I see something pretty neat, and the cycle starts again. Our mission is to be your trusted advisor, an unwavering source of understanding and guidance along the path to wellness. The key factor is that this focused person gets stuck in their mind whether they want it or not. Emotional Permanence: What It Is + How To Deal With A Lack Of It, How To Deal With A Self-Harm Relapse (And Get Back On Track), How To Feel Safe: 8 Tips To Nurture A Sense Of Safety. Relationships and friendships may suffer because the hyperfocused individual is pouring all their attention and energy into their focus to the exclusion of all else. 4. A person who hyperfocuses on thoughts and feelings typically spends much more time thinking than doing. If they see you slipping into an obsession, ask them to gently help you and write yourself a note beforehand explaining to yourself that you need their help and that you need to step back if they recommend it. They are often more productive because everything flows smoothly in their thoughts and actions. I dont want what Im doing now to be just a phase but Ive thought that for every other thing I did:(, I dont want to self diagnose but I literally do this all the time, I obsess with something for weeks or months and then quickly forget about it and get bored and Im so confused why. This tendency can mean we never become proficient at any one thing. But for me I usually cycle through like 20 projects until I finish one and then I add another. We often stop when something becomes too hard: I quit gardening, for example, when a bad tomato plant gave all my prized basil fungal rot. I think it's why I'm not as successful career-wise as I'd like to be but I can't stop myself. That's also why I have a bunch of useless knowledge on random things. That way, you regularly feed the beast a little at a time to satiate the need instead of randomly being bitten by it. They may focus on foods they find particularly appealing or interesting to the exclusion of other foods. Certain kinds of video games lend themselves to extremely deep rabbit holes that can be all-consuming. I can relate to it so well. We throw ourselves all in, whether its in crafting or exercising or cooking. They may talk or think from the characters perspective, often imagining what that character would do in a situation they find themselves in. In an MMORPG, there is theorycrafting on how best to play your character, what skills to use and when, learning strategies, farming materials to create items and gear, spreadsheets, and mathematical analysis on what constitutes best and worst. The person often focuses on things they find pleasurable. bruh I'm super into aquascaping right now and I hope I don't get sick of it like I did for everything else :(. And stop. Since Ive broken the obsession cycle, my garden looks better and my dogs happier. I read books sometimes. Though hyperfocus may be on something productive like housework or work, one may fixate on some common negative focuses. Associated mental health problems may also drive insomnia and restlessness. Hyperfixation may be positive if the person can still devote time and energy to other aspects of life. Reddit posts are actually a prime example of that because Ill be super into some thread and just really want to get my every thought out there. All Rights Reserved | Contact Us | Advertise | Privacy Policy, Why You Get Easily Obsessed With Things But Then Lose Interest. People assume that ADHD means that you can't pay attention to anything. 2. The consent submitted will only be used for data processing originating from this website. Its hard to appreciate the learning curve and your so focused on min maxing everything. Each of those hobbies, while they lasted, turned into an obsession. There are ways to self-manage hyperfixation to an extent. Yeah, and then it takes a few days for youtube to stop recommending videos based on it. I don't just want to think about trying it someday; I research the fuck out of it to make sure I get exactly the right supplies/equipment/software/etc for whatever that is, and use the right methods to do the thing, and immerse myself in every aspect of the thing, buy a bunch of shit with grand ideas of it being My One Passion, launch into it, doing the thing all day, every day for a while, and be moderately good at it, then. Yes! I ran rain or shine, day and night. Something sparks me as a fun idea? Typically, they want to get the person out of their head so they can focus on more productive things, but they cant. [Read: The Good, the Bad, and the Ugly of Hyperfocus]. Im healthier. Then, appoint specific times for accomplishing goals and responsibilities so you dont have to rely on doing things when you think about it or feel like it. I know this is an old comment but I can relate to this perfectly. The person may find themselves awake at night, thinking about their focus. ADDitude collaborates closely with leading medical experts to publish accurate, clear, and authoritative content that millions of readers trust and share. We and our partners use cookies to Store and/or access information on a device. Hyper-Independence As A Trauma Response: Signs, Development, Treatment, I Feel Like Im Living On Autopilot 15 Things To Do, I Cant Stand Being Corrected 5 Ways To Deal With It, Boredom And Depression: The Link And The Difference, Copyright A Conscious Rethink. The interest just goes poof. For example, massively Multiplayer Online Role-Playing Games are notorious for addiction and hyperfocus because they are designed as a treadmill to keep people engaged and logging on. The next, its like it never existed. I've been like this my entire life. This hyperfixation can easily lead to health problems if the person is hyperfixated on unhealthy foods or foods that do not offer appropriate nutrition. only my hobbies unfortnately have been far more expensive.. off roading, flying lessons, arcade building, motion simulators etc etc. Video games may also be another source of hyperfocus. My garden now stands choked with weeds and a few hardy stands of mint and cilantro. I cant recall how to double crochet. Depression and ADHD often feature insomnia. If you would like to change your settings or withdraw consent at any time, the link to do so is in our privacy policy accessible from our home page.. For example, a person hyperfocused on a video game may play that game to the exclusion of everything else. Bro I know Im so late to this but the YouTube thing Im undiagnosed but Im sure I have it I can relate so much I cant believe it, But Im still interested, Im just not as much because i dont too much money to throw at it, I wish I wasn't interested in mechs. Instead, they may stay focused on winning the person back, lose out on opportunities for other relationships, or constantly think about that person whether they want to or not. To view the purposes they believe they have legitimate interest for, or to object to this data processing use the vendor list link below. Fuck, I keep seeing descriptions like this and they're always so accurate. Problems that a person experiencing hyperfixation may experience include: Insomnia. Even if its not really that amazing or interesting for some people. In both cases, it is incredibly disruptive to ones ability to conduct their life, whether its a child doing their homework or an adult trying to move on past a relationship. They may only eat their fixated food for long stretches at a time. I realize that's in part Baader Meinhof, but also because I have so many of the symptoms. Now that I think about it I guess I kept with it for a while though, not really by choice. Here they are: 1. Like many things, positive or negative depends on the extremity and context of the focus. Cue various plastic tubs on every surface of apartment with tiny tadpole axolotls that require water to be changed every day. I tore up my yard and spent hours in the Southern summer sun. Some people may forget to eat, engage in self-care or grooming, and suffer from insomnia as they spend hours thinking about the thing they have become obsessed with. I find something that I'm really interested in. In some cases, they may only want to eat that specific food in a specific way because it feels wrong to do otherwise. A lack of awareness of the surrounding area or circumstances unrelated to the activity. I receive a commission if you choose to purchase anything after clicking on them. I do it all the time! Hyperfocus is also closely related to the flow state. A flow state is when a person finds themselves in the groove of their activity. Oh, my sweet summer child We can pay attention. Im an overall better human being. Create an account to follow your favorite communities and start taking part in conversations. But I definitely go all out for a few days, then take a break and move onto the next project. Still, the person with ADHD may also experience hyperfixation. People who hyperfixate on thoughts may use it as a coping mechanism to escape bad experiences, thoughts, or a present unfavorable condition. Then I dont play it for a month or two, then binge play for a week and then lose interest its a vicious cycle. But if you start a new hobby, jot down how much time and money you spend on it a day in a planner. It goes for interests too. Why ADHD Brains Become Paralyzed in Quarantine, Perimenopause Problems: How Changing Hormones Exacerbate ADHD Symptoms, ADHD and Addiction: The Truth About Substance Abuse. All my life I couldnt explain why so how did you deal with it?? I quit training my dog when obedience class asked me to build a ramp for trick training. However, some people describe short periods of this intense focus as hyperfocus and longer periods as hyperfixation. discord shutting down 2023. black moon lilith conjunct ascendant synastry THIS. Ask yourself if you jump from hobby to hobby, spending inordinate amounts of time and money on each, only to drop them cold. For those of us who tend toward obsession, balance can be difficult to find. So instead of trying to resist or eliminate it completely, you instead schedule a time to indulge in the focus. On the other hand, defining characteristics of ADHD are distractibility and a short attention span. This can be hard for people with ADHD! I didnt jog three times a week. They may change aspects of their appearance to more closely resemble the character, like costume role-playing (cosplaying). The hyperfixated person will develop a strong passion for the character that may interfere with their relationships, self-care, and regular lives. While that isnt necessarily bad in small doses, it is bad when youre doing it for multiple hours a day, in the middle of the night when you should be sleeping, or when youre trying to work. I had to make a promise to myself that I wont spend over x amount on certain interests/activities unless Ive thought about it for more than six months to a year or else I would spend large amounts of money for things that will inevitably collect dust at my house. Thank you. Some people develop hyperfocus to self-regulate harmful or distressing emotions. The person may be unable to form a meaningful interest in other things. The source of the fixation matters, too. Indicators may include: - A lack of awareness of the surrounding area or circumstances unrelated to the activity. Since 1998, millions of parents and adults have trusted ADDitude's expert guidance and support for living better with ADHD and its related mental health conditions. Furthermore, they offer such depth that one can easily fool themselves into believing they are doing something productive with their time by investing so heavily into them. Your description is on point! Over the years, I've learned a few ways to keep my hobbies from going too far and to help me keep my life in balance. Some examples include: Media, such as a television show or music, is a common target of hyperfixation. Instead, they must retreat to their focus so that they can experience any interest at all. To support our mission of providing ADHD education and support, please consider subscribing. Tags: Fall 2021 Issue of ADDitude Magazine, hyperfocus. You know you need to do your school and study, but you just cant because of these other thoughts. Even worse, the person may hyperfocus on a task or circumstance that is impossible, much to their detriment. Were bouncing. The person may have difficulty finding any interest or satisfaction in other things. Over the years, Ive learned a few ways to keep my hobbies from going too far and to help me keep my life in balance. Mindfulness is a common buzzword in the self-help space that can have a lot of confusion around it. Get a free issue and free ADDitude eBook, plus save 42% off the cover price. Mindfulness and being in the present with your thoughts can help you identify those behaviors before they gain momentum. I get intensely into something but then I'm over it in the next few days. Cue hundreds of eggs laid and birthed. And it sucks sometimes. Its better to be hyperfocused on schoolwork than on a video game. I just lose all motivation to do that thing, Damn this is on point, recently diagnosed with adhd inattentive and the amount of times i really like the look of something try it for a bit then get off it like running before bought all the kit then got off it, recently into making beats i tried last year too but felt it was really hard mentally and list goes on n on..! Be honest with yourself: Are you prone to obsession? Cue impregnated axolotl. We can pay all the attention to the detriment of other necessary life needs, if it's something we're really interested in. Press J to jump to the feed. 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